Asking for help. Why is it so hard?
One of the biggest stumbling blocks anybody runs into on their way to improving their life, is the fear of asking for help.
It is important to be clear on what it is that makes us afraid to ask for help. Reasons are usually either “not wanting to bother anyone” or fear of being refused. the most successful people in the world have achieved success with help, with support from someone. Most people are more than happy to help in any way that they are able to help. That is not to say that everyone can help in a way you may think you need help. You may have to modify what help you truly need. Often, what a person really needs is someone who can help you figure out what it is you need to do, a plan to help put actions in an effective order and a sounding board for those choices which will need to be made.
The fear of refusal to give help, especially from someone you thought you could really count on, can leave you feeling hurt and questioning your relationship as well as the thing for which you asked for help. Few people will move forward with a life plan if they are not being given the help they believe they need. So how do we resolve this without giving up a plan or idea?
First we must accept the fact that some people just have no idea of how to help and feel that if they are unable to give you exactly what you are asking for, they have nothing to offer you. Perhaps we need to learn to ask for help in a more open fashion. ”I would like to talk to you about an idea….can you spare some time to listen?” Secondly, we need to be okay with some people saying no. It has happened to virtually everyone who has tried anything.
Are you truly bothering someone by asking for help? Well asking someone while he or she is on the phone is not a good time, or while they are in a meeting. Be thoughtful in your timing. Be confident and clear as to what you are talking about. Do not go off onto tangents which take the focus off of your plan.
When you need more than what you feel you can ask for from your family or friends, it is wise to consider a life coach. At UnLeash the KNOW, I can help you focus in on what your goals are, how to best achieve them and provide you with the steps you require to take your idea from dream to reality. UnLeash the KNOW is your cheerleader, your teacher and your reality check. Get in touch and take that first step towards your future.
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