What Can a Life Coach Do For Me?

Do you ever watch Dr. Phil and say to yourself “I could have figured that out”?  I think that most people do, at least most of the time.  What you cannot offer however, is the resources that he has at hand.  I am not always sure that what he offers is the best solution but it is at least a beginning.  The real problem is that, in order to get those resources from him, you need to go on his internationally seen show and put all of your business out there for the world to see.

Fighting between family members happens in every family.  It can lead to estrangement, divorce and deep resentment and regrets.  Causes can appear to be money, lack of communication, or disagreements between parents and children.

Why do I say that these causes can “appear to be”?  How many questions do you ask yourself before getting into a fight between you and your family member?  I am not referring to questions such as “how dare he” or “what is her problem” .  The solutions often lie in the questions that you should be asking.  It is so difficult to ask the right questions when in the heat of anger.  How do you know what the right questions are?

The role of a Life Coach is to help you find the right questions, how to ask them and when to ask them.  At times, it is also about who to ask the questions to.  Relationships always have their good times and their bad times.  Whether you can move past the bad times with the love that lies beneath the surface or not, may depend on these questions.  Estrangement between a parent and child, is the saddest of all.   No one wins in that situation.  There are certain specific skills which seem obvious but which are not often innate.  Your private family business should remain between you and the person who can guide you towards resolution.  A Life Coach will ensure privacy and confidentiality.  A Life Coach will show you how to find solutions.  A Life Coach will not hold your hand in a kumbya way but will show you how to move forward in a positive way.

If you have a relationship in your life that is going through rough times but which is too important to you to let go without trying, contact me athttp://www.unleashtheknow.com  or write to me at  andrea@unleashtheknow.com  The solutions are within reach.  Invest in them now to save yourself the pain and cost of the alternatives.

Love of family and friends is the single most valuable thing we have in our lives.  I agree with Dr. Phil on one thing.  Awareness without action is worthless.  Act today….I look forward to hearing from you.

http://www.unleashtheknow.com     andrea@unleashtheknow.com

Life is truly what you make it.....How is your life going??

If you are anything like me, you listen to your friends talk about their hardships.  You read hard luck stories on social media.  We watch heart wrenching stories on the news.  It seems like everyone has a story, pain and heartbreak.  We have all suffered loss of family, friends, loved ones.  It seems that everyday there is something about bullying or depression in a public forum or discussion board.  So with all of these stories, is there anyone who doesn't have a story?  The fact is that NO....there is no one who does not have a story of difficulty.  The difference is that some people find the joy in life and some find the sadness.  

Before I go further, let me tell you a few things about me.  I was bullied from grade one to grade five.  I was inappropriately touched by an "uncle"  My parents didn't want to hear about it.....and I never felt more alone.  I suffered the death of my only friend at age 9 and now have fibromyalgia.  I was a single parent of three, abandoned by both the father and my family.  But life is AMAZING!!!!  I  am so blessed and my life is filled with joy.  How can I say that?  Because I CHOOSE to.  I am not a victim.  I have no regrets.  I have made a decision to be grateful.for the good and beautiful things and people in my life.  This was not a conscious decision, it was a way of life.  Of course I have cried oceans worth of tears.  I get angry when bad things happen.  I wonder why things do not work out sometimes.  In other words, I am human.  When really terrible things happen, I give myself 24 hours to be hurt, angry and frustrated.  Then I take the negative energy and use it to propel myself forward.  I find solutions.  I refuse to allow negative energy to pull me backwards but that is the only way it can take you.  If you want to move forward, you must fill your self with positive energy.  I turn that negative energy into positive energy by being in touch with my core.  

Your core is your inner self.  That voice in the back of your mind.  It takes focus and consciousness to be aware of your core.  Close your eyes and visualize your inner self.  He or she looks just like you....a mini you.  He or she must be kept warm, safe and be loved. Talk to your inner self.  Do for yourself what you do for your friends.  Why do we find it so easy to embrace those we love, but not ourselves?  Literally give yourself a hug.  Tell yourself that you are worthy and a good person.  Breath deeply as you say it so that the words can penetrate deep inside yourself.  As you are hugging yourself and breathing deeply, visualize all of the things and people in your life that you are grateful for.  Your children, your significant other, the hot water you shower with, the roof over your head and the food and drink you will consume today.  What is your favorite food?  How do you feel when you eat it?  Who is your favorite person?How does it feel when he or she hugs you and holds you?  Focus on that energy and those good feelings.  Let those feelings overtake your core.  Let those feelings push the negative energy out.  Can you feel it?  YES!!!  That is it!!!  Ahhhhhhhhh......can you feel the smile start to creep onto your face?

Now that you know how to give your core what you need when life is overwhelming you, You understand that the pain is real, whether it is physical or emotional,  Do not let that pain define you though.  Live a good strong life,   The best revenge on those who hurt you, is success.  No one has the right to hurt you, but it happens.  Do not be a victim of it.  Be the hero in your own story and you will find your life going differently.

LIVE YOUR DREAMS, NOT YOUR FEARS.  For more on how UnLeash the KNOW can help you find your joy, contact me through here or on www.unleashtheknow.com  Programs and Workshops page.